Did i sound myself too arrogant, over confident in my blog?
Recently, the impact came...
People sending me warning messages...friend closer than same blood sister started to dislike me...even people deleted me as their friendster friend.
I spend quite sometime to digest all these happening. I knew deep inside, all these wasn't an emotional act by them. It wasn't as simple. I knew it can be simple if i take it as "THOSE CHILDISH PEOPLE" like I always did. LIke what i will usually do.
No, not this time. It is all too funny to be coincidence. I shall sit back, and think what I had done. What i had written. Perhaps all those were plainly an accident. But im not taking things as so this time.
If you notice, i haven't been blogging as frequent. I was holding back, afraid of writing the wrong things. A part of me were telling myself that, who cares? this is your blog, I am writing about my life... and i don't have to give a damn about people condeming me.
But still, inside, who don't want things to be perfect? Who don't want to be liked by everybody?
Im going to do some soul seaching about this...
Am i taking this emotional?
The point is...these people that did the small action are people so closed to me. I can't help but care what they think about me.
Thank you for giving me a feedback, positive or negative. Appreaciated.
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remember u told me whatever i say is alwis right?and u are alwiz wrong. but did u realise tat u are doing the same thing too?
somtimes u dun even know u hurt people cuz u think u are right and they are wrong or u think this is ur blog so other people feeling does not to be cared.
in ur previous post u say "we do not sense the existence of air
like us living in the water without realising" . we sometimes hurt people without realising because we think we are right.
sorry for posting negative comment...is good to learn ur self more right then rather continue doing to bads.
luv u~
i guess i have to disagree with ron here. if we spend our entire life walking on eggshells, always afraid of offending people, haih, what kind of life is that?
I'm sure you don't intentionally say things that hurt people, some times we say things without realising and then its too late. but life is like that, we make mistakes and we move on.
yes, we want people to love us, but love should be free, not something that you feel you should earn. Just my opinion lar.
Anyway, i'm back in bp..ahem ahem..
i dont think u sound arrogant, n neither did i sense that u said bad things...
but its honestly very sad when people that close to u react that way, MAYBE u shud try to find out wat u did wrong and try to salvage your friendship...
then again, its your choice, u shud ask yourself, were they just acting petty? as in kecil hati? blowing up a small matter?
My two cents:
Everyone has his/her fair share of moments being agreed/disagreed. While saying "who cares" is a little too cool, who doesn't like to have support from others, especially the one you regard as "close" or “important”.
It's always different perspective we had and different opinions we possessed, why different? Because, we are human and we have our own brain; thus own set of mind.
I'm still looking for ANYONE who can view things in 360 degree, possible? I dunno, sitting in front of the computer, you can't really see what is happening behind you; hugging your loved one, you won't really see if he/she is crying or smiling. So could there be anyone who is always right- seeing the right things, talking the right words, making the right decisions and even sensing the right emotion? What is right and what is wrong in the first place? Is there a standard? How is it being measured?
Yeah, you say there's a Mirror. And people around us, especially the closed one are in fact our mirror.
When judging others (especially non-constructive comments), others are judging you. (yeah, who cares, again~), but seriously- What if, the person is someone very important to you? How would you like being supported, or the way round?
Try looking things in other's shoes and many questions will be answered.
To Cheryl, you have my vote of confidence. No one is wrong, just that, different point of views. The least we could do is looking things in their perspective, and give them the benefit of doubts; we’ll be fine- as Chinese proverb said “sea broad, sky wide” I’m sure you know this better than I do.
:CHEERS:
steph : er...you sure u disagree with me because i feel what u say and i say is about the same. we make mistake without realising and we juz got to move on.that is what i trying to say too(maybe my grammar bad so cant delivered it well...)
cheryl : sorry if i hurt u ,like steph said all of us dont mean to hurt others .pls forgive me.
For me these people are being childish, come on, is a blog and u can say watsoever u want to. If u don't like give a comment here, or just don't read. Deleted from friends' list? Don't act like a primary. Just give a damn comment and have ur say! I not only don't respect these childish act, but also can't believe the impact this blog had caused. Isn't that friendships should come 1st then that? Pick ur priority! This is a long-term investment my friends, the best u can ever had, don't delete that!
Ron : no you didn't hurt me. Maybe yes at first~ BTW, you sounded totally different from Step..
PLEASE...its time to learn how to deliver what you want to say okay? *SIGH
阿河 : Im impressed! you wake me up. These are the thoughts i supposed to have. Anything they aren't happy, they should just say it out here and shoot me directly. THank you for shaking my life!
May i know who are you? Thanks for reading my blog. :)
BTW, ur last sentence; don't delete wat?
ok!! i will try my best to write properly nex time.
i think i will put my oxford dictionary,my SPM essay book and my grammar book beside me when i give comment to u :P
take care n sorry again~
You're welcome, I don't like to name myself cause I live in my own world have my own identity from real life, call me my nick will do.
For the last sentence, I was refering to friendships. Don't delete your friendships!
hahaha, ron so funny..=P
no need so many books lar, use www.m-w.com enough aredi.
no one cares that i'm in bp...=( so sad..
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